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The Jealousy Trap
Carl Jung said: Jealousy: the greatest flaw of the feminine nature
We've all felt it—that sharp sting of jealousy when someone we care about connects with another.
Evil isn’t some outside force; it’s the jealousy, the possessiveness, the aggression that bubble up when we care too much.
Carl Jung saw this struggle clearly. He said that when a woman loves, her shadow—the hidden, messy part of her—shows up as jealousy or a need to control.
She might want to keep her man all to herself, pushing others away. Jung didn’t stop there. He said men do the same thing.
Love pulls out our shadows, no exceptions.
Jung went further. He talked about the “Self”—the core of who you are. When something or someone matters deeply to you, that core lights up. And when it does, the shadow comes too—stronger than ever. Evil, as he called it, isn’t some outside force; it’s the jealousy, the possessiveness, the aggression that bubble up when we care too much.
When we love or care deeply, we’re vulnerable. That lead to Fear, and aggression.
how you can face it, grow through it, and come out stronger?
- See It for What It Is: Jealousy isn’t your enemy; it’s a messenger. It’s telling you something matters.
- Dig Deeper: Ask why it’s there. Are you scared of losing? Do you doubt your own worth? Truth starts with honest questions.
- Speak It Out: Tell your partner what you feel, but don’t point fingers. Say, “I get uneasy when you’re close with others,” not “You’re making me mad.” It’s your shadow, not their fault.
- Stand Strong in Yourself: The less you need someone else to prove your value, the less that shadow grips you. Build your own ground—your skills, your purpose, your peace.
This isn’t just about love with a partner. It might feel it over your ideas, your crew, or your dreams. It’s natural to guard what you cherish. But here’s the challenge:
...don’t let that guard turn love into a cage.
Love and passion are wild forces. They light you up and cast shadows too.
The mysteries of the heart are vast, and we’re all fumbling through. But every time you face that jealousy or defensiveness head-on, you’re a step closer to knowing yourself. And that’s the truest path there is.
What lights your fire? What makes you clench your fists to protect it? How can you take that energy and make it work for you, not against you? The answers won’t come all at once. Keep asking. Keep seeking. That’s how you grow.
Know Thyself
Topic Ideas
- Love Triggers the Shadow: When we love, dark feelings like jealousy and possessiveness rise up. Jung saw this in women but said it’s true for men too.
- Universal Flaw: This shadow isn’t a rare glitch; it’s baked into us all. Caring deeply opens the door to these emotions.
- The Self and Evil: When something hits the core of who we are (the “Self”), the shadow grows loud—jealousy, aggression, control. Jung called this “evil” stepping in.
- Attachment Fuels Defensiveness: Jung’s example of his land shows it: when something matters, we get protective, even fierce. It’s not just about romance—it’s anything we value.
- Awareness Is Key: He hinted we need to notice this shadow, not ignore it. Consciousness turns a flaw into a chance to grow.
