To the truth seeker, you’ve felt it, haven’t you? That pull. That weight. A woman you care for—maybe even love—suddenly shifts. Her eyes narrow. Her words sharpen.
She wants you, all of you, and nothing less will do.
What is this force? Carl Jung, a wise explorer of the human soul, called it jealousy. He saw it as the greatest flaw in feminine nature. Let’s unpack this together—not to judge, but to see clearly.
When a woman falls in love, something stirs. It’s not just her heart—it’s her shadow, that hidden part we all carry. Love wakes it up, and out comes jealousy.
She doesn’t just want your time or your affection. She wants to hold you tight, to keep you in her grasp, to cut away anyone else who might catch your eye. Jung said it plain: she wants to “put you in her pocket,” to swallow you whole. It’s not gentle. It’s fierce. And it’s real.
This isn’t small. It’s not petty. Jung saw it as evil stepping in—strong and uninvited. When her love grows deep, when it touches what he called her “Self,” this need to possess takes over. It’s a flaw, he said, the biggest one in how women are wired. Not every woman, not every moment—but enough to notice. Enough to matter.
Now, hear this, young one: you don’t have to bend. That’s the lesson here. Her jealousy can pull hard, like chains you didn’t ask for. It can whisper, “Give in. Stay. Let her have you.” But you’ve got a choice. Freedom isn’t free—it’s a fight. Honor isn’t soft—it’s a stand. If she can’t let you breathe, if she needs to own you, then maybe the cost of staying is too high. Walking away isn’t weakness. Sometimes, it’s strength.
I don’t have all the answers. No one does. The heart’s a mystery, vast and tangled. But this much I see: jealousy isn’t your burden to fix. It’s hers to face. You? You keep your eyes open. You hold your ground. And you ask yourself—what’s worth more: her grip, or your soul?
Look deeper, seeker. Not at her, but at you. What do you stand for? What do you let in? The truth isn’t easy, but it’s there, waiting.
Know Thyself
Inspiration: Dark Jealousy: Marie-Louise von Franz
